Fathiya Barkadle, M.Ed.
2 min readSep 18, 2020

~Establishing an everlasting relationship with ourselves.

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Even though we might live in a hostile world, and perhaps encounter with life obstacles. It is not simple, but make sure you put yourself first at all costs. I have been documenting the following tips in my journal, and I can wholeheartedly say these tactics worked for me and still work. I believe that we ought to live in happiness and have self-respect for our own will.

“Respect yourself and others will respect you.”
Confucius, Sayings of Confucius.

Respect: When we respect ourselves, this sends a positive signal to our brain which unlocks the very self-criticism. In other words, it is imperative to believe in yourself by respecting and embracing your thoughts. For example, practice self-validating messages with yourself and believe in your guts by acknowledging that you matter.

Love: This is a shallow notion at times, but believe or not; the most critical aspect of self-worth is living in a life where the person fully accepts and creates an unbreakable intimacy within their soul.

Care: Self-care is an essential aspect of living as a sound and effective person. This is the buzz word around the world especially among professionals, but we as a whole often take out of the context. Think outside of the box, don’t limit your creativity in finding relaxing. For example, journal, take a walk, draw, and take a warm and soothing bath. There are a plethora of things you can reach your full potential for personal care and build interpersonal understand with serenity.

Spirituality: Spirituality is an important aspect of our lives and to take some time to connect with the creator. This is also a way of meditating or reading scriptures and pondering on the verses without thinking about anything else. For me, I usually pray five times a day and this helps me to complete my day with peace and gratitude.



Fathiya Barkadle, M.Ed.

High School English Teacher/ELD Instructional Lead & Freelance-Writer Blogger.